When you’re being bullied it can feel very scary and lonely, you can feel sad, angry, embarrassed and sometimes it may seem like nobody cares and that nobody can do anything to make things different for you…that’s not true and things can get better.
First off is finding someone you trust to talk too. It might be mum and dad, a teacher, a friend, a family member…anyone who you trust. They might not know what to do but just by telling someone what’s going on things can get better. Sometimes just talking about how we feel can make things not seem so hard. If that person needs to they can help you find someone who can help, a friend might help you talk to a teacher for example. The most important thing to remember is that when you need to get help, keep asking or telling until you find someone who can really help you. If one teacher doesn’t help…go talk to another. Someone will eventually help.
Know that often a bully picks on others because they have stuff going on in their life. Maybe they have someone picking on them and there are trying to get their power back by picking on you. Sometimes they don’t fit in and are just trying to be cool. Whatever the reason it’s not your fault.
When you’re in a situation where you are being bullied….maybe someone’s calling you names in the school playground or spreading rumours if you feel safe enough, confront the bully. Don’t fight back but let them know you’re not an easy target. Tell them that you don’t like the way you’re being treated, to stop it and to leave you alone. Then walk away with confidence.
Often standing up to bullies can be scary, so if you don’t feel safe enough to confront a bully, try to ignore whatever is happening and walk away. Remember if the bullying doesn’t stop, get help, go tell someone. Even if you can’t tell straight away, it’s still important to tell. If a bully is picking on someone lots or a whole lot of people and no one ever tells they can’t do much to stop a bully. So by telling an adult you’re half way there.
If you’ve being cyber bullied don’t respond to messages or posts even if you’re trying to stand up for yourself, often it can make things worse. Don’t delete them but keep them for evidence and tell a trusted adult.
When things are making you feel bad you don’t feel you can share, writing things down can help get things out. Listening to music, playing sports or just hanging out with people you feel safe with can make you feel better.
If you don’t feel like you can talk to anyone around you, but would like to talk to somebody both Youth line and Kids line can be a great help
Youth line: 0800 376 633 — Kids line: 0800 54 37 54